They are Gone - author unknown / Sophie Smith (Mummy)
You can shed tears because they are gone Or you can smile because they have lived.
You can close your eyes and pray they’ll come back Or you can open your eyes and see all they’ve left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see them Or it can be full of the love you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember them and only that they’ve gone Or you can cherish their memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back Or you can do what they’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.
OUR DADDY'S STILL OUR DADDY / Sophie Smith (Mummy) Please remember our daddy is as sad as our mum, Our daddy may look fine but truth is he feels numb. When he tells you he's fine thanks, he's telling white lies, We know cos we see him alone when he cries.
He looks after our mummy and helps her feel right, drying her tears speaks our names every night. Henry, Jasper and Evan, we're still our dad's boys, We just can't fill his house with our chatter and noise.
Our daddy's still our daddy even though we've gone. Our daddy's still our daddy when life has moved on. Please remember our daddy's our daddy forever, Our dad's love won't end, not now and not ever.
Our Henry Tim / Sophie Smith (Mummy) The life we'd planned for you my darling first born baby boy Was full of fun and games and laughter, happiness and joy. The eldest of your triplet brothers a special boy you'd be, First in line and so in charge of this great gang of three.
Our hopes and dreams for you sweet Henry gone the day you came, but you brought a love to us, our lives can never be the same. When I felt your tiny heart beat fast against my own I felt a love so pure and strong that I have never known.
Your daddy kissed your face and cried - Your life with us too brief, But the love we feel for you will last beyond sorrow and grief.
My Gentle Evan / Sophie Smith (Mummy) My darling Evan, my gentle son, You brightened our lives and then you were gone. If I'd known that in only ten days you'd have died I'd never have wasted the time from your side.
I wish I could cuddle you just one more time, And wonder at how your sweet face looks like mine, Touch your blonde hair and your wiggling toes, Your beautiful body and cute button nose.
Your first time in my arms was also your last, Your daddy and I cuddled you as you passed. We'll never forget you our beautiful Evan Who brightened our lives before going to Heaven.
My Darling Jasper / Sophie Smith (mummy) My Darling Jasper
I felt every needle, each tube in your throat, Every pain that you felt was mine too; But your mummy was helpless to save your sweet life, There was nothing at all I could do.
I wanted to kiss you and hold you in tight, To make you feel safe and be strong; To play with you, laugh with you, feed you and read to you Take you home where you belong.
My love for you Jasper will never fade, Now you’re with Henry and Evan; And one day we’ll all be together again, When Daddy and I are in heaven.
Thank you / Kristy Greenhatch (Mummy to Harrison ) Last Sunday a group of my friends and I walked into the Coogee Cafe for yet another catch up. Immediately we saw the collection tins with the precious little hand and footprint of your sons. We all stopped and took a moment, why did we choose this cafe on this day? Some of us had travelled all the way from Western Sydney. Had we been drawn here for another reason?
You see we are not childhood friends, nor did we meet eachother at school or work. The reason we had all come to know eachother was through the loss of our children. Each of us have been through the soul destroying process of losing our children in the third trimester and giving birth to still angels. Can I just thank you for this wonderful site, the bravery you have shown is just inspirational. I am sitting here in tears at the undying love you have shown your little boys. You are the epitome of what a parent should be.
Love Harrison's Mummy.
Look not mournfully into the past, it comes not back again. Wisley improve the present, it is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future without fear and with a manly heart - Henry Wadsworth Longfello
From 'The Prophet' by Kahlil Gibran / Sophie Smith (Mummy) 'When you are sorrowful look again in your hearts and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which had been your deepest delight.' Kahlil Gibran
A poem written for Sophie from Iain / Iain (friend) Somewhere deep in my heart Rests a flower. This flower shows what the universe knows I feel it and try to describe it, I look to the heavens Yet hidden inside all answers reside. Is it a lotus? Is is a rose? With each fragrant petal My love silently grows.
always thinking of my baby boys / Sophie Smith (Mummy) We do not need a special day To bring you to our minds. The days we do not think of you Are very hard to find
Each morning when we awake, We know that you are gone. And no one knows the heart ache As we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness And our secret tears still flow. What it meant to lose you No one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you, Your place no one can fill. In life we loved you dearly; In death we love you still.
There will always be a heartache, And often a silent tear. But always a precious memory Of the days when you were here.
We hold you close within our hearts: And there you will remain, To walk with us throughout our lives Until we meet again.
(Author unknown)
a special gift / Sophie Smith (Mummy)
A stranger in a shop gave me a little box with 3 glass angels and the following blessing:
When our spirits are low And worry overcomes, Three guardian angels remind us We are never all alone. Sent from heaven to guide And to help us find our way, Their loving blessings bring Protection throughout every day.
Awestruck/ Nell Lindsay-Smith (Cousin) I am sitting here in Tanzania with tears pouring down my face. I have never known such bravery as you two have shown. I am awestruck and inspired by your boys and you two. Now they are all in the care of Minnie and Gump and my Pa. God Bless them. Much love Nell xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
our love, our loss, our gain / Sarah Waldin-Wheatland (friend) To three little boys who will never become men ... the world missed out on your love, your laughter and your smiles - we miss and mourn what the future can now never hold. Thank you for coming to remind us of the important things in life. You will not be forgotten.
Sent to me by Jules (Thanks Jules) / Sophie Smith (mummy)
Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there, I do not sleep I am a thousand winds that blow I am the diamond's glint on snow I am the sunlight on ripened grain I am the autumn's gentle rain When you waken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight I am the soft stars that shine at night Do not stand at my grave and cry I am not there I did not die (author unknown from the Makah tribe)
A poem: Mummy, by Terry R Knights (found on the internet) / Sophie Smith (Mummy)
If it were possible to speak to you There's so much we'd want to say. We'd smile at you and love you In our very own special way.
Please do not be sad, Mummy, Don't give up in despair, 'Cause we'll always be in your heart, For you we'll always be there.
But we're in heaven now, Mummy, And its not really such a bad place, As there's lots and lots of people Of every creed, colour and race.
So, on each and every birthday, Special events and Mothers Day too, Know in your heart we're smiling, And loving you, honestly, true.
Most of all be happy, Mummy, Please go on and live for me. It's so very important that you do, 'Caus its through your eyes we'll see.
Sent to me by Jo Burden. Thanks, Jo! / Sophie Smith (Mummy) May you always have 3 angels by your side Watching out for you Helping you believe in brigher days and in dreams come true, Giving you comfort and courage. Someone to catch you if you fall Inspiring smiles Holding your hand and helping you through it all. May you always have 3 angels by your side.
A poem written by Alexis. Thank you Lek xx / Sophie Smith (beloved Mummy )
The three boys slipped out of their bodies like cicadas leaving their shells. They felt themselves being drawn upwards back into the arms of the Eternal Mother. Higher and higher the spirit boys rose, hearts opening ever wider. Henry laughed as he remembered that he was joy, Evan grinned as he remembered that he was love, and Jasper smiled as he remembered that they were all eternal. Once home they held hands and looking down at their earth mother they chorused,
"We are the very light that surrounds you and we will love you always."
Thank you / Judith Lynch (School friend of Sophie's ) You are an inspiration to those of us who have so much and yet we take it for granted. Thank you for touching our lives and sharing your mourning - I will pray for you both and your baby boys in heaven.
Much love to you all / Jess Dunn (second cousin ) Dearest Sophie,
I had a dream about your three beautiful boys, last week. They were playing and having a blast, at a farm somewhere. Jasper was chatting away to someone. They were all happy - it was a beautiful dream.
You are all in my thoughts. All my love, Jess xxxx
Family/ Celia Dunn (Second cousin ) He floats away, most tender child Though pain was there, his air was mild I longed to meet him, to see him grow To see the joy he would bestow
Despite kind words it’s hard to see Just how cruel some lives can be I’m humbled by the strength you’ve shown In darkest grief with all hope flown
The only comfort I can find Is in the love he left behind Seek courage in the guarantee: You will always be a family
Sophie- A Beautiful Mother / Amanda Gardiner (friend of Sophie ) The tears have been flowing as I have read your beautiful words Sophie. What a beautiful mother you are. Henry, Jasper and Evan are so blessed to have a mother as gentle and loving as you. I pray that you will feel the love of your little boys around you each day and that yours and Ash's grief will eventually fade in time. Know that you are in our hearts this Christmas. May God truly bless you, Ash and all of your family and may your little band of brothers be at peace in their heavenly home.
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